So I've been asked multiple times to write/post pictures about the my year in the US. I ain't gonna lie it's been hard on me to look back at pictures and write about it because I miss it so much. It breaks my heart to go through pictures and remember what my life used to be like, my every fucking day life. I was ON TOP OF THE WORLD.

But, we can't avoid to face difficulties forever and today when I went through pictures I can also feel happy, because I can now remember how FUCKING happy I was.

So now to your questions:

What to think about when arriving to a host family/American high school: To be a part of a new family is WEIRD - it's basically a group of new people picking you up at the airport and now you guys are gonna live together, but I would just advice you to be polite, offer your help and don't be afraid to ask questions; all from questions about language, society, common norms or FOR A RIDE ;) When it comes to making friends in your new school, Americans are very forward, talkative and kind at first. They will be very curious about YOU and YOUR background. But you as new HAVE TO TALK, ask them questions, come along when they ask if you want to go out for a milkshake. YOU HAVE TO PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE. Another thing is that it's very clicky - groups are very common and in many cases you belong to one group of friends and then you don't switch around... Be aware whom to trust and whom not to trust. And work on to go in more depth in relationships with people you feel comfortable around. At least what I experienced was that Americans generally are very (almost too) easy to connect with at first, but have a harder time to open themselves up in the long-run.

When it comes to language: JUST FREAKING TALK. Yes you will have a different accent and yes they will notice it and (kindly and with love) make fun of you - in fact a guy referred my accent as "a very sexy, sort of European accent". But in three-four months they won't anymore and you're gonna have to explain yourself why you're not going to college, haha...

Homesickness: You're gonna leave your life for a year, your school, friends, house, family - so yeah you are gonna get homesick. It was times when I wanted to cuddle with my little sister more than anything or go for a run with my dad and these were things Skype couldn't provide, unfortunately. But my year was BASICALLY PERFECT, so I'm gonna go ahead and be honest when I say that homesickness was not as much of a problem to me. You might leave a life behind but you will be busy creating a new one and to stay busy is the best thing you can do. If you're homesick, don't hide in your room crying - talk to your host mom, meet up with a friend IT HELPS AND THEY ARE THERE TO HELP YOU.

Leaving the US/return to Sweden: Leaving Palo Alto was THE HARDEST THING I've ever done. I cried for days and I was almost depressed because I had to leave my entire life; my school, my track team, my host family, my house, my friends - all on the same day. I had to leave a life I had been working my ass off to put together for the past ten months.The worst part was that I wouldn't even be guaranteed to see any of them again... BUT coming home was incredible too - I realized that I appreciated everything and everyone at home much more when I returned after a year, which was so cool.

If there's any other questions you'd like to get answered - ASK ME; either by a comment or email me to: [email protected]

I've TOO many pictures so bare with me. I'll put them up in two different posts actually because it's so many of them. Hopefully you will enjoy them though, at least I will.

XOXO
TILLY

 

 

Have you guys ever thought about our need as girls to constantly judge each other? It's among us everyday, all the time. I'm not saying I'm necessarily completely innocent myself either, although I'm trying not to do it. When I say that girls are judgmental I'm not only thinking of how we constantly talk shit on one another, rather, I'm referring to the LOOKS we give each other. And honestly it happens EVERYDAY. In fact I think some girls do it unconsciously, literally they don't even think about that they're doing it - but they do and that's why I want to label it - our JUDGMENTAL LOOKS. WHY?! If you see a girl with a pretty bag or a cute top why not tell her rather than giving her a nasty look? Your nasty look is most likely based on jealousy anyway and although jealousy might be what you feel im that specific moment, if that's the case, do you really want to show it? And also if you give a nasty look, when you can definitely expect to get one back...

Guys never, or rarely do this so why should we girls??? We need to step it up... I mean we can easily give our friends compliments as well as they give them to us, so why can't we give people we don't know compliments too? What is there to lose? It's not like they're gonna get upset - most likely surprised at first, then happy.

I'm going to Hvitfeldtska, which is one of the largest (if not the largest?) school in Gothenburg and is crowded with people everywhere, all the time. That means that anywhere you go, at any time during the day we girls pass each other by and we judge and judge and judge... I don't know what your guys' opinions are on this topic, but I'm just getting soooo tired of it... These looks need to stop - think about it, it's just so unnecessary! Appreciate each other instead! At least this is what I think: If you show your appreciation to people in your surroundings no matter if you know them or not, they are highly likely to show their appreciation back. This will definitely contribute to more smiles among us and if I'm not mistaken, we love to smile, don't we?

XOXO
TILLY